A Desired Relational Necessity

As a self-described romantic my mind always finds its way to thinking about ways I and my future partner will be able to connect and do things together- in not always stereotypical fashion. One of those things that I've reflected on and have found myself thinking about recently is right here- the blog. I think it would be an amazing way to share, our thoughts, and grow with one another. In relationships, beyond the emotional connection and the sharing of beliefs there is a social component that is a necessary element of the relationship. Doing things with one another is a great way for couples to be connected, stay connected, and have times of discovery with one another.

This thought process is not new to me. Some of my favorite "influencers" are those that incorporate their relationships/partners in real ways into their content. I think finding hobbies that couples find and enjoy with one another is one of the best ways for couples to connect. Through those shared hobbies, couples are able to experience new, but related, things together. These shared experiences, in turn, reinforce and strengthen the couples' bond by having participated in common activities.

These shared activities provide couples a grounding, something to return to in times of difficulty to repair and reflect on their relationship. Oftentimes, couples will have multiple grounding activities. As a Believer, the greatest of these- in my worldview- is church. If a couple shares in the church attendance and both become active (though activeness may/will look differently for each) they will be able to lay faith as their relational foundation. By having faith be the base of the relationship the couple will be able to always turn back to God to be their rock that they build their future upon and due to their activeness will have a group of wise counselors in their corner to turn to when facing difficult times.

Following church, shared hobbies becomes the next layer of social-relational foundation. These are the things that each enjoys and enjoys doing with one another. Some of the most common hobbies include DIY projects, playing music, going on hikes, and playing games/sports. During these shared moments couples are able to learn new things about one another as well as build a deeper connection with one another because of the shared experiences.

It is in this element of a relationship that I hope to share this blog, someday, with my wife. To hear her ideas and thoughts, to co-author posts with contrasting viewpoints (husband and wife), and to share our other experiences and lessons with the world together. This is one, of many, relational necessities that I'm looking forward to in my future relationship.